Posts Tagged ‘Pamela Druckerman’

a word on manners

Mar
2012
08

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do | 3 comments

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I’m reading that book that I had mentioned in this post,  Bringing up Bebe. I’m actually enjoying it, but taking most of it with a grain of salt. It’s a pretty easy and entertaining read.

One thing that really stuck with me is when the author, Pamela Druckerman, talks about manners and what is taught to French kids. She says that generally speaking, American kids are taught to say “please and thank you,” and that’s the main stuff, but the French kids are taught two more things, bonjour and au revoir… yeah that’s right, “hi” and “bye.” What’s that you say? American kids are taught to say “hi” and “bye” too, duh, but hear me out.

In essence, greeting adults and acknowledging an their presence. She talks about how children saying “please” and “thank you” puts them in a children’s role, with an adult who is expected to do/have done something for them, but that saying “hi” is almost like a basic human courtesy.. that little sign of acknowledgement. Makes sense right?

My parents were hard asses about this. It didn’t matter if I was having a tantrum or if I was too tired, hungry or grumpy, when I saw an aunt, uncle, family friend whatever, I HAD to greet them. It wasn’t a big production, it was just “hi.” It’s a simple way to be polite and courteous. And it’s so funny because I find myself making Gabriel greet people, even if he can’t really do much. I still greet everyone, and with him, I just say things like “say hi to nana,” knowing that he won’t say a word.

I think its really important to get in the habit of manners from very early on, so that it’s not as difficult to introduce later in life. What do you think about that? Do you think it’s a little much to ask a kid to greet an entire room of adults? Or do you think it’s important? What are some other “manners” that you were taught? What are some manners that you teach your kids? I’d love to hear!

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a french parent

Feb
2012
15

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do | 2 comments

The French. They’re better at us at everything: braiding, potato snacks, striped t-shirts, fashion, desserts, coffee, bread, history, and now parenting? What the F…. pardon my french.

Have you heard of this new book? It’s been all a buzz around the internet, reviews are all over. Read some reviews here and here.  Yes, I ordered it. The idea of having a well-behaved toddler who eats fish and vegetables at a restaurant was just all too appealing for me to not give it a shot. The idea that parents get to have their own time and kids learn to just be kids and play by themselves was also really appealing.

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Find the book here.

Some other of my favorite French stuff:

Most comfortable shoes ever.

This makes me wish I could adopt this girl. Or clone her.

This awesome Dutch Oven.

Air.

Paul Cezanne. My favorite French artist. I took an entire class in college JUST about the guy.

French influence on Vietnam.. more specifically banh mi.

This cookbook has the BEST roast chicken recipe. Simple, three ingredients. It is a staple in our home.

My favorite Flight of the Conchords song.

and Jane Birkin. Yeah, I know, she’s a Brit living in France, but I like her a lot.

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